Argh, sorry. It appears that words are not my friends tonight! I meant to say I agreed with you totally, and I probably would have gone even softer on Sherlock due to the whole meaning well side of things. :D
As to my incompetent guy: I mean, yeah at the time I wasn't thrilled, but when I understood what he *meant* it gave a vastly different perspective that completely wipes out the original offence I took. I still wasn't attracted to him, but that's a whole different matter!
(I don't mind people having Molly upset with Sherlock in stories, because, well, she was, and she's got a fairly delicate equilibrium where he's concerned, and that's a character POV - what I do find uncomfortable reading is when people use Molly as a reason to paint Sherlock as villain from the omniscient/authorial viewpoint, because what I see in those scenes is so very reminiscent of some socially-challenged people I've known who were genuinely trying their best to help or be complimentary in various circumstances. It's propbably one of those YMMV things.)
Re: "Never attribute to malice," etc
As to my incompetent guy: I mean, yeah at the time I wasn't thrilled, but when I understood what he *meant* it gave a vastly different perspective that completely wipes out the original offence I took. I still wasn't attracted to him, but that's a whole different matter!
(I don't mind people having Molly upset with Sherlock in stories, because, well, she was, and she's got a fairly delicate equilibrium where he's concerned, and that's a character POV - what I do find uncomfortable reading is when people use Molly as a reason to paint Sherlock as villain from the omniscient/authorial viewpoint, because what I see in those scenes is so very reminiscent of some socially-challenged people I've known who were genuinely trying their best to help or be complimentary in various circumstances. It's propbably one of those YMMV things.)