Honest (slightly ranty, sorry) question for those of you who write Sherlock as asexual but romantic. What is the difference between friendship and relationship without sex, emotionally. I seem to be completely aromantic, so really, I don't understand. I don't mean to offend.
I... just don't fucking get romance. I do understand falling in love, to some degree, but as soon as two people decide to become a couple, there seems to be a whole set of rules involved that everyone else seems to get on an instinctive level. I don't. I'd probably get monogamy if it were just 'don't sleep with other people,' but it doesn't stop there, right? Let's say Anderson is totally into dinosaurs, but his wife isn't. Now Anderson meets a woman, I don't know, during coffee break or something, who's also a dino-freak. Wearing dino-jumpers.* Now, conveniently, Jurassic Parc, uhm, 12 opens that very night in London, and dino-lady's got tickets. Anderson can't go, right? Not with a women, at least not without talking it over with his wife first? What if she's a lesbian, would that change things? What if Anderson's bi, and watching dinos with another man? A straight man? A gay/bi man? What?
There seems to be a general consensus on emotional exclusivity in relationships... and I just don't understand how that works, or why you'd want it. Anyone explain?
Now, Sherlock, he doesn't look like someone to me who gets these rules. He seems both asexual and aromatic to me in canon, and for the sake of fic, I'd buy him as sexual but aromantic, never the other way round. Maybe I'm projecting?
Can anyone explain relationships to me?
I... just don't fucking get romance. I do understand falling in love, to some degree, but as soon as two people decide to become a couple, there seems to be a whole set of rules involved that everyone else seems to get on an instinctive level. I don't. I'd probably get monogamy if it were just 'don't sleep with other people,' but it doesn't stop there, right? Let's say Anderson is totally into dinosaurs, but his wife isn't. Now Anderson meets a woman, I don't know, during coffee break or something, who's also a dino-freak. Wearing dino-jumpers.* Now, conveniently, Jurassic Parc, uhm, 12 opens that very night in London, and dino-lady's got tickets. Anderson can't go, right? Not with a women, at least not without talking it over with his wife first? What if she's a lesbian, would that change things? What if Anderson's bi, and watching dinos with another man? A straight man? A gay/bi man? What?
There seems to be a general consensus on emotional exclusivity in relationships... and I just don't understand how that works, or why you'd want it. Anyone explain?
Now, Sherlock, he doesn't look like someone to me who gets these rules. He seems both asexual and aromatic to me in canon, and for the sake of fic, I'd buy him as sexual but aromantic, never the other way round. Maybe I'm projecting?
* http://www.cafepress.com.au/+red_dino_sweatshirt,479037255