I think I have a problem: I have two friends, two good friends, but I also have this need to be alone in my world most of the time. I care about them and I gladly spend time with them, but only if it's on my own terms, otherwise I just feel pressured into being with them and I become a Very Not Funny Person To Be Around.
I don't know why I feel like this but I'm scared to death to try and explain to them: "Hey, I love you and everything but I could do with seeing you only once a month and talk to you via texts or emails the rest of the time if you need me" because honestly, who wouldn't be offended if anybody told them that? They'd think I don't like them or don't want to see them or spend time with them or talk to them. But that's not the case, not at all.
I just have this need of seeing people in my own time and on my own terms, same for talking to them: if you need me I will gladly listen to you all you want, but random calls or messages to chat about the weather or how my day has been? I'm not up for those, not at all, I feel like somebody's presence is pressured onto me and I don't feel comfortable at all.
I don't know what's wrong with me or if it's normal, no idea, but I do care about my two lovely friends. But I'm scared in the long run they'll just get tired and leave like everybody else has done (oh yes, I have an exstensive history of losing friends, I'm a pro at that).
TL;DR I CARE ABOUT YOU BUT I'M WEIRD AND I NEED TO SEE PEOPLE AND TALK TO THEM ONLY ON MY OWN TERMS, I'M SORRY D:
Does anybody else feel the same and/or does anybody have advice?
This will probably get lost among the other Reichenbach-related posts, but I really need some advice
I don't know why I feel like this but I'm scared to death to try and explain to them: "Hey, I love you and everything but I could do with seeing you only once a month and talk to you via texts or emails the rest of the time if you need me" because honestly, who wouldn't be offended if anybody told them that? They'd think I don't like them or don't want to see them or spend time with them or talk to them. But that's not the case, not at all.
I just have this need of seeing people in my own time and on my own terms, same for talking to them: if you need me I will gladly listen to you all you want, but random calls or messages to chat about the weather or how my day has been? I'm not up for those, not at all, I feel like somebody's presence is pressured onto me and I don't feel comfortable at all.
I don't know what's wrong with me or if it's normal, no idea, but I do care about my two lovely friends. But I'm scared in the long run they'll just get tired and leave like everybody else has done (oh yes, I have an exstensive history of losing friends, I'm a pro at that).
TL;DR I CARE ABOUT YOU BUT I'M WEIRD AND I NEED TO SEE PEOPLE AND TALK TO THEM ONLY ON MY OWN TERMS, I'M SORRY D:
Does anybody else feel the same and/or does anybody have advice?